What happened to disconnect us from our compassionate nature, leading us to behave violently and exploitatively? And conversely, what allows some people to stay connected to their compassionate nature under even the most tiring circumstances? While studying the factors that affect our ability to stay compassionate, Ph.D. Marshall B. Rosenberg was struck by the crucial role of language and our use of words. He identified a new approach to communicating - both speaking and listening—that leads us to give from the heart, connecting us with ourselves and with each other in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish. This approach is called Nonviolent Communication (NVC).
In writing Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, Dr. Rosenberg has made an important contribution to world peace. What is just as important, he has made a contribution to your peace and unfolding. Read this book; practice its tenets; and then talk to your family, your co-workers, your neighbors. See what a difference nonviolent communication makes in your life.
The book is filled with real-world conversations that can be used as examples of the approaches being discussed; these really tie everything together nicely.
"Each chapter has a series of sample communications at the end in which to test one's understanding and his responses to those samples. Overall, NVC seems on first encounter a highly stylized way of talking, but the principles behind it are very, very valuable." Chinn Street Counseling
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NVC fosters respect, attentiveness, and empathy and engenders a mutual desire to give from the heart.