Entitlement is the best name we know for the attitude of children who think they can have, should have, and deserve whatever they want, whatever their friends have, and that they should have it now, and not have to earn it or give up anything for it. And it goes beyond having to behaving. They think they should be able to do whatever they want, whatever their friends do, now, and without a price. Entitlement is a double-edged sword (or trap) for kids. On one edge, it gives kids all that they don’t need—indulgence, dullness, conceit, and laziness. And on the backswing, it takes from them everything they do need: motivation, independence, inventiveness, pride, responsibility, and a chance to really work for things and to build their own sense of fulfillment. It’s devastating our families by trapping our kids and setting them up for failure. Wondering where the sense of entitlement comes from? The answer is you. It’s time for you now to learn what to stop doing, what to start doing, and how to replace your child’s sense of entitlement with a sense of ownership and responsibility. It’s not an easy transition, but it can be enormously enjoyable and worthwhile one that will affect your child’s whole life, not to mention yours.
"Richard and Linda Eyre are the proud parents of nine children – they have truly seen it all and they have become parenting experts and the #1 New York Times bestselling authors of Teaching Your Children Values as well as authors of numerous other books on parenting. Their newest book, The Entitlement Trap aims to help parents 'raise responsible children in an age of instant gratification and avoid the entitlement trap.'" Momma Blogs Alot
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