Downsizing The Family Home
What to Save, What to Let Go
Editorial Review
Most homes have items that can trip those clearing them out into sinkholes of sentiment. As the family museum, the old homestead is filled with relics that represent a lifetime of storied treasures: Art collected during travels, dresses worn for special occasions, significant jewelry, family photos, yearbooks, and mound of documents, important and not. Sorting through it all is emotionally, mentally, and physically overwhelming. But if it is done right, it can be tremendously rewarding.
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