Presence is the state of being attuned to and able to comfortably express our true thoughts, feelings, values, and potential. That's it. It is not a permanent, transcendent mode of being. It comes and goes. It is a moment-to-moment phenomenon. Presence emerges when we feel personally powerful, which allows us to be acutely attuned to our most sincere selves. In this psychological state, we are able to maintain presence even in the very stressful situations that typically make us feel distracted and powerless. When we feel present, our speech, facial expressions, postures, and movements align. They synchronize and focus. And that internal convergence, that harmony, is palpable and resonant — because it's real. It's what makes us compelling. We are no longer fighting ourselves; we are being ourselves. We create honest, powerful connection internally, with ourselves.
“Unlike most authors of such books, Cuddy brings an abundance of humility and charm to the page. Her interest in “impostor syndrome,” which she discusses at length, arises from personal experience.” — The New York Times
“Amy Cuddy encourages readers to see transformative power in small ‘nudges’ in behaviour, body language and mind-set that can generate a better sense of ‘presence’ in our everyday lives.” — The London School of Economics and Political Science
“An uneven book studded with genuine insights that public speakers will find useful.” — Kirkus Reviews
“Drawing insights from successful venture capitalists and from a host of social psychology studies conducted by herself and others, Cuddy discusses self-affirmation, the role hormones play in confidence, mood enhancement via facial expression, and reinterpreting anxiety as excitement.” — Publishers Weekly
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Presence is the state of being attuned to and able to comfortably express our true thoughts, feelings, values, and potential.
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