This book is about the profound challenge of being on the receiving end of feedback – good or bad, right or wrong, flippant, caring, or callous. Our primary purpose is to take an honest look at why receiving feedback is hard, and how to provide a framework and some tools that can help you metabolize challenging, even crazy-making information and use it to fuel insight and growth.
"The book which is from theHarvard Negotiation Projectoffers frameworks and tools to help people deal with feedback more effectively.The book is on the sizable side with 13 chapters and 348 pages and is an amusing one to read. Be warned though, it is high on theory and models, but is balanced out by pragmatic examples all through the book illustrating theoretical explanations. The book has a humorous edge too, with tiny bits of quirky statements embedded throughout the book." trainingone
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In the broadest sense, Feedback is how we learn about ourselves from our experiences and from other people – how we learn from life.
There are lots of good reasons not to take feedback, and at the front of the line stands this one: It’s wrong. The advice is bad, the evaluation is unjust, the perception someone has of us is outdated or incomplete.