If you picked up this book because you want to increase your confidence, you are not alone. Millions of people have low confidence and most of them worry about it, not least because it's incredibly hard to simply boost. our confidence at will, as you've no doubt realized by now. We've been taught to prize the swagger of confidence and all its apparent benefits. Who, given the choice, would want low confidence and its related anxieties—both social and performance related—and problems? In fact, you'd probably think that those enviable people with high confidence are more likable, more employable, and more successful in the long run—but you'd be wrong.
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We all want to be better than average. We want to be A+. What does it take to be A+? The essence of being A+ is that we need to realize strengths in ourselves and others. We need to become and continue becoming the best that we can be, as well
Self-awareness is the meta-skill of the twenty-first century. If we’re not self-aware, it’s almost impossible to master the skills that make us stronger team players, superior leaders, and better relationship builders—at work and beyond. The lifelong journey to understanding who we are and how we’re seen can be a bumpy one, full
Confidence is the bridge connecting expectations and performance, investment and results. Sometimes it seems as if there are only two states of being: Boom or Bust. When things are up, it feels as if they will always be up. People come to believe they can succeed at anything they try; companies
When you hear the word “creativity,” what do you think of next? You may equate “creative” with “artistic.” You may believe that architects and designers are paid to be creative thinkers, but CEOs, lawyers, and doctors are not. Or you may feel that being creative is a fixed trait, either you’re
People with resources incur most health issues from making unrealistic evaluations of their problems.
Higher confidence distorts your perception of risk and its consequences, creating a false sense of security and the illusion of immunity.
There is no better demonstration of the detrimental effects of high confidence than its negative effects on health.
People with an avoidant internal model find it the hardest to bond with others because they are too independent and self-reliant for their own good.
Social anxiety is a driving force that motivates you to prepare, improve, and minimize embarrassment ahead of daunting or challenging events.
Socially confident people tend to ignore any evidence suggesting that they may not be as popular as they hoped to be.
The second reason why people are deemed employable is that they are seen as hard working, usually because they are.