Assertiveness goes beyond standing up for yourself. Assertiveness is saying what you want in a way that makes others want to listen. This philosophy is at the heart of the self-development method created by nationally recognized self-esteem and communication expert S. Renee Smith. In 5 Steps to Assertiveness, the nationally recognized self-esteem and communication expert distills what she’s learned and taught about assertiveness over the past 20 years into 5 easy-to-follow steps. Built on her successful engagement with hundreds of organizations and individual clients, S. Renee has curated this actionable 5-step how-to guide that will help you see the value of what you have to say- and gain the confidence to say it.
"This book, 5 Steps to Assertiveness was an eye-opener for me. I usually can recognize passive-aggressive communication and behavior in other people but not in myself. After reading this book, I was able to identify my communication style. I found many tips and tools in the book that I am using to make changes in how I communicate with my family, friends, and colleagues. By practicing easy-to-follow exercises in the book, I am learning to be assertive without being aggressive. When I am assertive, I feel like I am in control of the situation. I plan to purchase more copies to give as a gift to my friends and families."
"Everyone needs to know how and when to speak up for themselves, but most of us do it too aggressively, too passively, or even too passively aggressively. S. Renee’s wonderfully insightful new book, 5 Steps to Assertiveness, provides a much-needed roadmap for all of us to know how to speak our minds in ways that other people, both at work and at home, can better hear and understand what we want and need.No matter how good you think you are at communicating, S. Renee’s many practical tools and insights will make a profound difference in the quality of all your relationships."
"Perfect information to use when counseling and guiding others in positive ways of speaking up and moving forward to have needs met."
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