Achieving ultimate happiness means owning it. Too often we allow other people or situations to control our quest for happiness; a disobedient son, a losing battle against weight gain or feelings of loneliness. But the key is how well you control the impact of those disappointments have on your overall happiness. Base your happiness not on an outcome—especially one in which others have some influence —but on your contribution in achieving that outcome. For example, I'd be happy if my mother would accept me for who I am. If you are the best person you can be and try to represent who you really are, then your happiness should be based not on whether someone accepts you but on how honest you are with yourself and others.
"I've never met a person who didn't desire to be happy. Who wouldn't want their lives to be more peaceful, learn to enjoy life as it is instead of what it could have been or be in a happy relationship? The answer is "Nobody," but sometimes people are so obsessed with trying to be like others that we forget to be happy with what we have now. Dr. Ian K. Smith, the best-selling author of "The Fat Smash Diet" and one of the hosts of the VH1 show "Celebrity Fit Club" gives readers reasonable advice on how to be happier in life with his new book "Happy: Simple Steps to Get the Most Out of Life." Examiner.com
"In his book, Smith points to a number of ways to measure happiness--and none of them, according to research, is about a fat paycheck, a big house, a nice car, good sex, success at work, winning the lottery or a spa vacation. Instead, Smith has scoured research on topics like positive psychology and happiness studies, and culled lessons in happy living. His own first step was to get less busy. Below, he offers his suggestions for slowing down and getting happier. His advice isn't earth-shatteringly new; maybe you've heard it before. But this time, try it." The Root
Flourish builds on Dr. Seligman’s game-changing work on optimism, motivation, and character to show how to get the most out of life, unveiling an electrifying new theory of what makes a good life—for individuals, for communities, and for nations. In a fascinating evolution of thought and practice, Flourish refines what Positive Psychology is
We treat our future selves as though they were our children, spending most of the hours of most of our days constructing tomorrows that we hope will make them happy. Rather than indulging in whatever strikes our momentary fancy, we take responsibility for the welfare of our future selves. In fact,
The consistent ability to create this kind of reality is called positive genius. The reason some people see the world so differently from others is that the human brain doesn’t just take a picture of the external world like a camera; it is constantly interpreting and processing the information it receives.
Attaining lasting happiness requires that we enjoy the journey on our way toward a destination we deem valuable. Happiness is not about making it to the peak of the mountain nor is it about climbing aimless around the mountain; happiness is the experience of climbing toward the peak.
Happiness is not something that happens. It is not the result of good fortune or random chance. It is not something that money can buy or power command. It does not depend on outside events, but rather, on how we interpret them. Happiness, thus, is a condition that must be prepared
Visit someone and have a conversation in person instead of picking up the phone and sending text message.
Going back to some of the basics can simplify what has become complex and increase the meaningful interactions in your life.
We often get lost in the hustle of making it through the day that we don't take time to evaluate which things are more important than others.
Too many of us prefer the comfort of what we know rather than the challenge of discovering the unknown.
Surrounding yourself with happy people means an increased chance that good things will happen to you, too.
It is unfortunate that most of us spend half of our day time during the work week away from our families, friends and hobbies.
When employees are having fun, they are more energized and ready to go the extra mile for one another as well as the company.
You must have a bigger perspective when it comes to assigning the level of importance to work, and that means accepting that work is only a slice in the pie of life and not the entire pie.
One way to enjoy work is to make sure you're enjoying life. When your job becomes all-consuming, tasks that would typically be exciting become mundane and uninspiring
Eating outside or taking some time to walk on the grounds or do a quick personal errand can make a big difference.