We have all done it. Been indecisive when a decision was called for, said yes when we meant to say no, and found ourselves out of time, out of energy, and out of sorts. It's time to stop being indecisive and start making clear decisions. Why? Because it's not helpful, not respectful, not ethical, and in some cases it is downright dangerous to be indecisive. One of the reasons you act indecisively is that you're not using the word no effectively in your daily conversations. Until you reclaim the power of no in your conversations and in your life, you will continue being indecisive and be seen as a Waffler or a Yes-ism person. It's time to stop hesitating on decisions, time to stop waffling, and time to be decisive. It's time to claim the power of no. When we say yes to everything and everyone, we end up losing ourselves, our time, and in some cases our lives. When we say yes to every request and demand, we become our own worst enemies. And we make ourselves victims of our constant decisions to say yes. When we fail to say no to others, they are in effect invited to turn on us. And they can feel invited to do to us or for us things we do not want done. Use the power of No Model to turn your internal no to a spoken out loud no. The key to success when saying no is to say the word no firmly and in a manner that others will hear and take seriously.
"If you’re afraid that saying 'no' will cause a backlash with friends, family, or colleagues, you’ll be pleasantly surprised to learn that “no” can be a productive answer, and can put you in control of any situation – without turning you into a meanie.No!turns the word into a tool for personal power, and gives you new ways to help discussions and decisions move forward. This enlightening guide reveals how 'no' can help you protect your time, money, family, and more. And it demonstrates that 'no' is a legitimate word that doesn’t always need to be negotiated to 'yes.'"JanaKemp.com
"Kemp has a model called the POWER of No which has an acronym from POWER: Purpose, options, when, emotional ties and rights/responsibilities. She suggests that using this acronym will help us to make a yes / no decision based on the right issues at the time." Betterpractice.org
"People around the world are learning the power of the word "no," as witnessed by the Chinese, Dutch, Turkish, Arabic, and Polish translations of Jana Kemp's bookNO! How One Simple Word Can Transform Your Life. Based on her years of time management workshop delivery, this book grew out of the discovery that people are increasingly having a hard time saying "no" – even to the things that threaten their time, their resources, and, in some cases, their lives." Self-studycourse.com
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