Teaching Kids to Think

Raising Confident, Independent, and Thoughtful Children in an Age of Instant Gratification

by Darlene Sweetland , Ron Stolberg

Number of pages: 304

Publisher: AMACOM

BBB Library: Parenting

ISBN: 9781492602750

About the Authors

Darlene Sweetland : Dr. Sweetland is a licensed clinical psychologist with more than 20


Ron Stolberg : Dr. Stolberg is a licensed clinical psychologist with an emphasis in


Editorial Review

In Teaching Kids to Think, Dr. Darlene Sweetland and Dr. Ron Stolberg offer insight into the social, emotional, and neurological challenges unique to this generation. They identify the five parent traps that cause adults to unknowingly increase their children's need for instant gratification, and offer practical tips and easy-to-implement solutions to address topics relevant to children of all ages.

Book Reviews

"In the aftermath of reading this book, I’ve caught myself from answering for my kids, giving them solutions, and so forth more often. I hope I can keep it up, because I am determined to raise kids who know how to think for themselves!" - Rebecca Reads

"Teaching Kids to Think will help you understand where this sense of entitlement comes from--and how to turn it around in order to raise children who are confident, independent, and thoughtful" - Hancock Public Library

A must-read for parents and educators, Teaching Kids to Think will help you understand where this sense of entitlement comes from – and how to turn it around in order to raise children who are confident, independent, and thoughtful." - Nonfiction Author Association

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