Positive Discipline

The Classic Guide to Helping Children Develop Self-Discipline, Responsibility, Cooperation, and Problem-Solving Skills

by Jane Nelsen

Number of pages: 384

Publisher: Ballantine Books

BBB Library: Parenting

ISBN: 978-0345487674

About the Author

Dr. Jane Nelsen is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in South Jordan, UT and San Diego, CA. She is the author and/or coauthor of the Positive Discipline Series


Editorial Review

If you are a teacher, have you been teaching long enough to remember when children sat in neat rows and obediently did what they were told? If you are a parent, do you remember when children wouldn't dare talk back to their parents? Maybe you don't, but perhaps your grandparents do.  Many parents and teachers today are feeling frustrated because children don't behave the way they used to in the good old days. What happened? Why don’t today's children develop the same kinds of responsibility and motivation that seemed more prevalent in children many years ago?

Book Reviews

“This book provides a lot of basic information for new parents to learn about general child development as well as normal milestones and human development. The information provided could be really helpful for new and inexperienced parents to recognize how children grow and develop and therefore how we can expect them to behave.” — Working Moms Balance

“Positive Discipline has become a wonderful tool in my parenting toolbox to guide me as I work to raise my boys to be confident, respectful, and capable. It has helped me to give them what they need at this stage in their lives and to also feel more in control of my own reactions and emotions. All of which is helping to make our family thrive.”— Sunny Day Family

“Jane Nelson has once again written a phenomenal book, well more of a Parental handbook if you will on how we can help both our children and ourselves overcome some of life’s most difficult obstacles.” — Little Conversations Today

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Wisdom to Share

Adults forget that they no longer act the way they used to do in the good old days.

Too many mothers and fathers believe that good parents protect their children from all disappointment. They rescue to overprotect—thus robbing their children of the opportunity to develop a belief in their capability to handle the ups and downs of life.

Children do not develop responsibility when parents and teachers are too restrict and controlling, nor do they develop responsibility when parents and teachers are permissive.

Most behaviour problems can be eliminated when parents and teachers learn more effective ways to help their children and students develop healthy perceptions and skills.

Understanding why children do not behave the way they used to is the first step for parents and teachers who are facing child discipline challenges.

Remember that everyone needs attention. It is undue attention that is not encouraging to children.

Set up nonverbal signals with children in advance: a hand over your heart to signal “I love you” or a hand cupped to ear to signal you are ready to listen when the whining stops.

Verbalize love and caring.

Remember that power is not a bad thing. It can be used constructively instead of destructively.

Scheduled special time is a reminder to you about why you had children in the first place—to enjoy them.